March 16th, 2010 | 
Author: Round of applause to our first mommy blog winner — Mary Fischer from The Mommyologist!
The Mommyologist
Twitter: @themommyologist
Q: Why did you decide to blog about being a Mom?
Before I had my son, I had an exciting career as a Meeting Planner. I never had to think twice about hopping on a plane to Vegas or Chicago and checking into a fine hotel and ordering room service and watching movies until after midnight. Because of my extensive travel, my husband and I made the decision that it would be best for me to quit my job and stay home with our son after he was born. It was definitely the right decision for us, but motherhood turned out to be much more difficult than I thought it was going to be. I had a very isolating experience as the parent of a newborn. In an instant, my priorities completely shifted and I found myself actually missing my old life. I missed being able to go out to dinner or read a magazine from cover to cover anytime I wanted. I missed being able to take a shower without hearing incessant crying.
I missed SLEEP! And the fact that I was missing all those things made me feel extremely guilty, like I was not a good mother. In talking to some of my girlfriends who also had new babies, I realized that those conflicted feelings I was experiencing were pretty much the norm. It’s just that nobody really talks about them. Women think that they will be labeled as bad mothers if they admit to the fact that they are having a hard time adjusting to being parents. I started my blog in the hopes of reaching out to other new moms are feeling isolated and alone to let them know that everything that they are feeling is perfectly normal. And one of the best ways to cope is to laugh about it!
I firmly believe that if women were more honest about the major emotional life changes that a new baby brings, then women would be better prepared when bringing home their new child and would feel much more comfortable with their situations.
Q: What has been your favorite post so far?
I think that my favorite post would have to be the one titled “A Few Words From a Former A-Lister “. I chose this post because it really makes light of just how different the life of a new mother is from her life before she had a baby. I wrote it after attending a family baby shower. It is my take on what really constitutes the perfect baby shower gift for any expecting mom. And it’s definitely not a wipes warmer.
Q: What do you hope readers get from your personal story?
First and foremost, I hope that I make my readers laugh. If I can make one new mother out there go from crying about how hard things are to laughing and nodding her head in agreement because she totally identifies with my story, then I’ve done exactly what I set out to do. I also hope that my readers will appreciate the honesty of my writing. I don’t sugar-coat anything, and I truly believe that’s the best way to go.
Q: What is the best advice you ever received concerning mothering?
The BEST possible piece of advice that I can pass on is to throw out the baby books and do what works for YOU. Every baby has different needs, and one way or another you will figure out what those needs are. Just because you may do things a little differently from your friends does NOT mean that you are doing anything wrong. Do not let anybody make you feel inadequate as a mother. Motherhood is NOT a competition.
Q: Who are your favorite mom bloggers?
There are so many great ones out there that it’s almost impossible to choose! Some of my daily reads include:
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